OR IS IT? What level of imbalance are you prepared to tolerate?
Across all the people I work with, I see huge differences in how they inter-weave and cope with multiple roles and responsibilities in life.
There’s a limitless list of factors that will influence what they are prepared to put up with… whether the imbalance is short and temporary or long and enduring, voluntary or enforced, within their control or beyond it, exciting or frightening, constructive or destructive. And… the reality is that people can have different tolerance thresholds at different times in their lives when it comes to coping with imbalance. Some will even actively seek it, preferring the excitement of anarchy to the calmness of equilibrium.
A big issue for people nowadays is achieving balance across some pretty hefty and demanding priorities. Life’s pace can be hectic, priorities are juggled with escalating urgency, hours in the day are squeezed and downtime is getting shorter as busyness increases.
Then there’s brain activity, boy oh boy is that difficult to switch off when you’re under pressure. Thought processing can run on and on if left unchecked, and talk about circular routes? It can be more a case of thoughts running in ever increasing spirals.
I regularly hear people say, ‘the more I do, the more I get asked to do’, accompanied by the feeling that they’re on a never ending treadmill with very little breathing space or recovery time to appraise their efforts and successes.
At work, dissatisfaction and frustration over mountainous workloads may be tempered with the satisfaction of a job well done, a reasonable salary, annual leave allowance, or even appreciation of having a job at all (which can feel like a position of privilege in the current economic climate). The trouble is that effectiveness and efficiency can be at risk of being thwarted by constantly running to keep up. Regular office hours are no longer regular for many people out there. Clocking off at 5.00 or 5.30 pm usually means taking work home.
If you’re a workaholic and you thrive on the pressures of your job, you can feel exhilarated by working at a fast pace, all hours of the day and night, but please keep a check on how you are faring.
If you’re delivering well and achieving high standards most of the time, that’s great. If you’re able to keep motivated and maintain high energy levels naturally, then you’re definitely on a roll. Just watch, though, that you are not placing unrealistic or unreasonable demands on others around you. Check, too, that you’re not leading by example at work, causing people to feel guilty if they clock off at a reasonable hour. How are your work patterns impacting on those close to you? And, finally, can your work patterns be sustained in the longer term or are you going hit the wall and burn out?
I’m not making any judgements here, at all. What I’m pointing to, and feel strongly about, is a need to manage balance across all of your priorities (including handling temporary imbalances) to ensure sound physical and mental health. Short and frequent bursts of pressure are great, they get adrenalin flowing. When pressures exceed your ability to cope, that’s when things get tricky.
You can control how you distribute your time, attention, effort and energy across all the roles you fill in your life and the responsibilities they bring. This may mean reclaiming control if you have lost it.
If you are being buffeted around, bouncing between your priorities like a pinball machine, it really is time to hit the pause button and gain a firm foothold. This now is about you managing physical and emotional demands made on your time and energy. It’s about investing in your long-term effectiveness, keeping yourself fit, well and motivated.
It’s you who controls your own balancing scales. You can decide what is and isn’t acceptable or tolerable when it comes to tipping those scales. Some priorities may well be fixed and routine (eg, doing school runs), others will be fitted or squeezed in as best you can. Priorities may move up or down in their weightings on a regular basis. If other people are claiming more of your time than you can afford, there’s a decision to be made about how thinly you spread yourself. Is it better for you to share your resources freely and widely in a scatter-gun effect (you can take ‘resources’ to mean time, energy, talents, skills, knowledge, effort, physical or emotional support) or to target them in a more concentrated and focused way? You could well vary your approach depending on what your purpose is and what you are trying to achieve?
What’s important is that YOU decide on and adopt the best approach for ensuring your effectiveness and positive outlook.
When you know you’ve got an event or situation coming up, you’re in a position to plan which can make life a whole lot easier. When a crisis arises, the decision tends to be made for you. The crisis creates immediate purpose requiring instant energy and action. You’ll make immediate adjustments across your priorities to accommodate it. Your balancing scales will most likely tip in favour of the crisis. How long your scales are tipped for will need to be managed. You have control over your reactions and recovery plans.
So… where have we got to? I’m making a case for understanding and managing the demands on your time and energy. Why bother? Because your resources are not limitless and you have a responsibility to yourself for sustaining your health and wellbeing.
Is it simply a question of balance? Absolutely yes, in everything we say and do, in the choices and decisions we make, in how we react and interact, in all aspects of life, and across all generations…
I would be very interested to hear what achieving balance in your life means to you… Is it important how much control you have over the priorities in your life? Are you comfortable going with the flow, taking things as they come, ducking and diving, juggling and spinning?
It would be REALLY good to hear from you.